7 Ways to Be Calmer and More Productive

1. Focus on your own business.

It can be so easy to compare ourselves to other people over our paychecks, the contents of our closets, relationship statuses… but when you realize that all that matters (and all that you can control) is you, you can’t help but just do you. And when that happens, life gets awesome.

2. Don’t overthink stuff.

When you stop trying to dissect and interpret the words, texts, tweets, and motivations of others, you’ll experience that dose of tranquility you need. “Analysis paralysis” is such a precious waste of your time.

3. Know how to laugh at yourself.

Joan Rivers said, “Life goes by fast. Enjoy it. Calm down. It’s all funny.” Life doesn’t have to be so serious, does it? And once you get to the point where you can laugh at yourself, you can laugh at pretty much anything.

4. Work before you play.

Maturity can almost always be measured by delayed gratification. Do the work first, don’t half-ass it, care… and then play. Work can be fun too—especially when you commit to doing work that you love. Adulting can be great adventure, if you give it a chance.

5. Don’t gossip.

When you just walk away from the water cooler when the boss is being whispered about, you’re really doing yourself a favor in the long run.

6. Don’t blame others.

I don’t think there is anything more grown-up than taking 100 percent responsibility for your life. No excuses or exceptions—parental, governmental, or otherwise. When you own your circumstances and your “stuff,” you’re empowered.

7. Don’t react.

There’s nothing like watching reality TV to observe some highly reactive, immature, theatrical overreactions… and onscreen, they’re great. Bring the drama!